If you’re working with someone who’s in a fight, consider the ways structures of oppression like patriarchy and white supremacy might be the ultimate source of the struggle. It can open up new ways to overcome internalized oppression and resolve conflict. Listen now.
Thanks so much for these reflections, Jess. You raise really important points, here. It's interesting to note that ways that contradictions in patriarchy--around labor in the home, or 'which women' are supposed to do certain kinds of work--get negotiated by individual women, or suppressed in conversations, because they're such loaded subjects, instead of talked about as rooted in structures that need to be challenged.
Thinking more about this post and the unspoken taboos between women. Something I have noticed is that Moms of Daughters resent Moms of Sons when they see the Moms of Sons enabling/supporting patriarchy. E.g. rewarding boys for being competitive instead of collaborative.
My hypothesis is that it's less costly to pay for help on domestic work like cleaning and childcare rather than asking a spouse socialized as a male to. I had a male partner once whose attitude toward housecleaning was, "If you think it's not clean right now, that's your problem."
I'm excited for the history piece next time and to learn more from you.
Thanks so much for these reflections, Jess. You raise really important points, here. It's interesting to note that ways that contradictions in patriarchy--around labor in the home, or 'which women' are supposed to do certain kinds of work--get negotiated by individual women, or suppressed in conversations, because they're such loaded subjects, instead of talked about as rooted in structures that need to be challenged.
Thinking more about this post and the unspoken taboos between women. Something I have noticed is that Moms of Daughters resent Moms of Sons when they see the Moms of Sons enabling/supporting patriarchy. E.g. rewarding boys for being competitive instead of collaborative.
My hypothesis is that it's less costly to pay for help on domestic work like cleaning and childcare rather than asking a spouse socialized as a male to. I had a male partner once whose attitude toward housecleaning was, "If you think it's not clean right now, that's your problem."
I'm excited for the history piece next time and to learn more from you.